Life After Divorce

I just divorced from my wife of too many years. She was a nagging bitch. We just grew apart and had absolutely nothing in common anymore. Okay enough about her…it’s over. Thank God. But she still holds the kids over my head. It’s like she has all the control, still. I love my kids and just want them to be happy and know that I love them. She just makes it difficult for me to see them, and when I do, she gives me all sorts of rules and timelines. How do I get through to her that it’s time to get along…for the kids only.

You have to stand up for yourself. Definitely have a court order in place for child custody to mandate how often and when you get to spend time with your kids. Have a sit down with her, somewhere casual and public to ease tension and have the discussion in an enjoyable setting. Sounds like she’s still angry about the divorce. She’s mad that it ended, and will forever blame you. The goal is to re-create a relationship with her under these new circumstances. You were married and had kids together for pete’s sake! The least you can do is be friends. You may not be in love anymore, but you can as two mature grown adults, form an amicable friendship that works in harmony to manage the kids and your separate lives. This is just mandatory to the success of an after-divorce relationship involving kids. Good luck…you made marriage and kids happen, I think you can pull this one off too!